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Couple Principles - Part III

8/14/2012

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Creating a vision for your relationship is a motivating and connecting process.  March 17, 2012 I wrote about sharing hopes and dreams.   It could be out of those conversations that you develop that vision with your partner.  It may be helpful to formally write a vision statement, but it is at least worth having an actual “vision” (picture in your mind) of where you are and where you want to go with your partner.  This “vision” is collaboratively developed and shared if it is going to have the “connecting” quality.  Otherwise, it is just YOUR vision.  It does not have to be developed all at once and can change over time.

You cannot experience that vision without your partner, so it takes both of you doing everything you can to make it real, regardless of what
the other person is doing (note: assumes no abuse/ violence).  One of the things a vision does is help you stay focused.  Remembering the vision helps when conflict arises.  It keeps the focus on the prize as opposed to who might win a particular argument or successfully defend a position.  Ephesians 5:21 Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.

Thinking of each other as a team, going after the same goal is important to the success of your relationship.  Having just finished the Olympics, just think how a successful relay team or volleyball team relies on one another.  Each will bring a different set of skills, but if one member judges another member to be less “worthy” and therefore determines to put less effort into winning, the team will surely have no success.   Colossians 3:23 And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men;

So, create a vision with your partner and use it to keep the team on track and you will experience many successes together.
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